Authenticity is a bitch.
Ok, didn't mean to shock you there. Just sharing what's on my mind, per usual.
You see, authenticity is becoming one of those poppy, trendy words. Thrown about.
When you dig into it, though, it can be as deep as our souls themselves.
I'm sitting in a coffee shop, having thus far avoided blogging about the experiences of January for some odd threefour weeks. In looking for a photo to upload for this post, I had to browse my gallery from Arizona. This album contains several pictures of me and my ex-boyfriend pretending to enjoy the trip together. For the most part, we actually did enjoy it, but looking back comes with such sweet sorrow as they say. Because of that little "ex" bit.
I'll catch you up.
I quit my corporate job (quit this time, didn't get laid off like last time) a little over 2 weeks ago.
My relationship ended, mutually and peacefully, 3 weeks ago.
I went to Sedona for a week long trip and saw the Grand Canyon 4 weeks ago.
There, the Grand Canyon.
Ok, back to authenticity.
Authenticity means listening to yourself first.
I put some lines around that because I want you to stop. Stop and read that again. Let it sink in.
It means listening to yourself first.
So, what if you can't connect with yourself? What if you don't know what your innermost self is trying to tell you? What if you can't hear it?
What if you're too busy running around like a frantic person, continually distracting yourself?
Not that I have ANY personal experience with the above.... Not that it's been my modus operandi for the past few weeks.
I've been running, going, and doing nonstop since we got back from Arizona.
Raise your hand if this sounds familiar.
So, it's not until now, sitting here looking over pictures of the person I cared deeply for, that I've actually felt like I'm standing still. It's heavy and somber and sad, but it's good. It's grounding. It's reconnecting with myself.
I've been chasing shiny objects for three weeks. Shiny objects called running errands, going to networking events, staying busy, scheduling appointments, and "working" on my business. I'm a life coach, and I can absolutely see what I'm doing. Does that mean I can just turn it off? Nope.
Being authentic means feeling all the feels, not blocking them.
Why am I writing about authenticity today?
Well, I just dialed in my message for my coaching practice - Danielle Lindblom Empowerment Coaching. It's all about finding empowerment through authenticity. I believe that living your truth is the epitome of freedom. I live for the moments where I get to help others peel back the layers and actually listen to their innermost selves. Seeing them discover the feeling of wholeness and the truth of their being. And then empowering them to go live that truth.
It's heady and amazing and I am so grateful that I get to do this for a living.
But of course it begs the question of "am I being authentic?" Damn all my self help study.
Reflection is about the LAST thing my psyche wants to do right now, thank you very much. It would much rather just move forward as fast as possible and leave any and all icky feelings in the rearview. Full steam ahead to new adventures!
Alas, this is good and it is right, and it will aid in the healing.
SO, what does this mean for you?
I'm going to go a layer deeper here. I've been sitting on the fence for years, trying to decide what to do with The Adventure Dog Blog. It's not about me and the dogs anymore. It's not about trail guides and documenting our national parks travel. It's become about my personal journey, and I'm glad that I've captured that journey here. BUT, those dog resources are still floating around. And, let's be real, the website is called The Adventure DOG Blog.
I actually sat down today to begin making content (oh how I LOATHE that word) for Danielle Lindblom Coaching. It's this whole other website and Facebook page, just sitting out there, barely viewed, stagnant, forgotten. Unloved?
I was going to start making blog posts and videos about authenticity and empowerment (see above). I kept coming back to this. I've got my whole life (feels like) documented, chronicled, and examined in this website. I have never been more authentic in my whole life than on this blog. I wrote about my plans to pursue meaningful work and my struggles with corporate life WHILE IN my corporate job! I put that out there, knowing people could see it.
I wrote about my struggles with mental health and suicidality.
And I wrote about my beautiful journey towards living my truth.
I've been purely authentic here. So, what do I do?
Do I put on a more professional persona on daniellelindblom.com , my coaching website, and do what all the other business owners do? Create email newsletters, Facebook ads, and canned content to share across the interwebs? Do I do what everyone else does, what I should do, or is coaching different?
I'm still not sure, but I'm getting closer to figuring it out.
Not all who wander are lost - thank goodness! I have an excuse!
I want to keep this website, just as it is.
I've had more than one business coach recommend selling it. Letting someone else pick up the adventure dog torch and enthusiastically write trail guides and tips for hiking with your dog. Pull all of my personal story posts off and put them somewhere else.
I've honestly been considering it.
The Adventure Dog Blog is me, though. It's my story, from day damn one. I began this after my trip to Glacier National Park, just me and the dogs. My first big solo foray into the wild world. My colossal leap into the journey of self discovery, purpose, happiness, fulfillment, and finding my own way.
This website represents my evolution. I'm damn proud of it. I want to keep it, remember it, continue adding to it. I want to inspire others to do bold things, to be vulnerable, and to get the most out of life.
So, the adventure continues..
Danielle Lindblom - Empowerment Coach will have its place. Will have its audience. Will help people in a different way. As usual, I figure things out by writing. Thanks for collectively being my muse today. If you've made it to the end of this post, huzzah!
I encourage you to continue your own adventure. Do something that makes you uncomfortable. Talk to someone new. Stretch yourself. And, by all means, give your dogs a pat for me. They are along on this ride, too!
If you're curious, if you're called, head over to daniellelindblom.com and book a free coaching session with me. I got you. Your world could change.
Adventure On my badasses,